Fitting in is so much easier than not fitting in, right? Peer pressure is hard to handle! Young kids are not the only one who face peer pressure. Unfortunately it never goes away, no matter your age. That is depressing but there is hope.
My husband and I try to teach our children that they don’t have to fit in to be loved. That is much harder said than done. Trust me, I know and that has been an issue I have (I would like to say “had” but I still struggle at times) to deal with each and every day. I will say that since becoming a Christian it is easier because I know God has plans for me and they don’t always include fitting in with others or with the ways of the world.
As we address this topic with our children we have to remember to keep our heads and hearts in check and in line with the Gospel. My devotion today was a perfect reminder. Check it out here! As my daughter struggles with making decisions that feel right in her heart versus what people will think of her decision this can be a comfort to her as well. In the end it will not matter what others thought of us!!
Another topic I have talked about lately is Santa. This kind of goes along with the following others and the fitting in issue if you really think about it. We don’t want to be different but what about being different when we know it is right to be different? That is tricky! I have been battling with myself on this very topic. I enjoy Santa and have since I was very young. I see the excitement in my kids around Christmas when Santa is mentioned. On the other hand there are things about Santa I don’t like. I don’t think that he should only come if the kids are “good”. I think too much emphasis is put on that aspect. What child is going to be “good” all the time just because a big jolly guy will bring presents to them? As parents are we really going to stop Santa from coming at the first sign of misbehavior? Why do they only have to behave shortly before Christmas rolls around and not year-round? This is nuts to me!!
Our children know the real reason behind Christmas and they will tell you it is not truly about Santa but about Jesus. We talk about Jesus and his birth and why we celebrate Christmas in our house. We also talk about Jesus, God, and share the Gospel year-round, not just in December. I am pleased to hear my children praying and talking about God in their daily lives!!
A great friend of mine knew just what I needed and sent me a wonderful message and included a very well written blog post about another family that had the same Santa struggles as I. Read about it here! I feel more at ease after talking with family and reading this post. I think a little tweaking will make me feel more comfortable with this whole Santa thing.
So with all that said, we don’t have to fit in to be loved. God loves us just as we are and he is pleased with our decision even if our “friends” are upset with our choices. In the end, God is the one judging us not our peers!